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Each of us has the necessary resources to resist discrimination. FEEDBACK
The basic tool for responding to discrimination is feedback, that is, informing the other person how you perceive their behavior, actions, and behavior. Well-structured feedback is a form of expressing one’s own feelings, desires, and beliefs that does not hurt the other person and allows them to maintain a positive attitude towards themselves.
FORM A MESSAGE “ME” to show how we feel about the other person’s behavior or a situation that has taken place, and what we expect from it.
Unlike a message YOU, it does not evaluate the other person, but focuses on the feelings that have arisen within us.
An example of a ME message:
I am angry when you tell sexist jokes because they really hurt women / men, I wish you wouldn’t do it in front of me, and ideally stop telling them at all.
How to build effective feedback on the basis of the ME message? Below we propose a model which shows how to build such a message in four steps:
Name the situation: what specific behavior is discriminatory. The more specific and after the shortest possible time from the event, the better.
Name your feelings – say how this situation / discriminatory behavior affects you, how do you feel about it, what emotions it caused in you. In a situation where there are several, it is up to you to choose the emotion you are talking about.
Show what are the consequences of discriminatory behavior.
Say what change in the behavior of the person you expect, what you need, express clear objection.
The lecturer who conducts the exercises uses sexist language in subsequent classes. What can be done in this situation? React with the message me:
I am offended when you make sexist comments against women, because it upsets me and disturbs my learning, I wish you would not do that anymore in class.
Another example of this type of intervention could be a firm but not aggressive message, e.g .:
• The word you used is offensive.
• It’s a hateful term.
• It doesn’t make me laugh.
• Please stop.
• I do not agree to such treatment.
• I do not want such comments.
• It definitely doesn’t suit me.
• I do not agree to the use of these types of words.
Remember that an effective reaction is also to inform the relevant institutions at the University of Warsaw about the incident – it can be done by the discriminated person themselves, as well as by witnesses of discrimination.
Report the case to one of the UW bodies responsible for counteracting discrimination at the University
the Academic Spokesman >> ombudsman.uw.edu.pl
Chief equality specialist at the University of Warsaw >> email@example.com
the Rector’s Committee for Counteracting Discrimination >> firstname.lastname@example.org
The benefits of reacting
- When I experience unequal treatment and oppose it, I give other impetus to act – including other people who are discriminated.
- I react because the principle of social justice is important to me.
- When I react, I feel that what I am doing is consistent with my values.
- I react because witnessing discrimination causes tension and stress, and because I do something to oppose unequal behavior, I feel relieved.
- I react because I gain respect for others and for myself.
- I react because thanks to it my sense of influence grows and I develop my responsiveness.
- I react because I overcome my own resistance and surprise myself positively.
- I react because I have a sense of solidarity with those who are weaker than me.
- I react because it increases my self-esteem and self-satisfaction. I have personal satisfaction!